LOUYSBLOG: HAPPINESS

LOUYSBLOG: HAPPINESS: ARE   YOU   HAPPY  ? Today I was sitting at the office listening to birds chirping  in nearby bush. These birds seems to have coordinati...

HAPPINESS

ARE   YOU   HAPPY  ?

Today I was sitting at the office listening to birds chirping  in nearby bush. These birds seems to have coordination,unity and a sense of belonging. They flew in and out of their nests without fear.
It got me thinking what my greatest fear was at that time and there I had it "Loosing my spark" .I have sat here for the past few hour trying to think of activities that make me truly happy and fulfilled and I will call mine a scroll since others I might die without even trying any of them.

I was born a wander watch Lost girl Sn 4 you will understand my point. I am so adventures and all I have ever wanted to do in my life was try everything, love forever, eat almost everything,dress every-how, talk to everyone. That has been my dream from my toddler days, it would make my spark glow so bright.

Why have I not done anything about the things I love most my life?

1. DWELLING IN THE PAST
My past is just but any other story and everyone has one whether good or bad nobody should be in  the position to judge others negatively by what happened decades ago. There are things we are not proud of and there are others that we always want to announce to the whole world.
When our past keeps on being dragged in the present it makes the present cease to be, bury all these painful memories and embrace the possibility of having better sweeter ones in the future.

2. FOCUSING IN WHAT YOU DON`T HAVE
I have acceded to have a heart to gratitude towards everything and everyone in my life since its within my prerogative to be happy. It is not wise to be devastated just because we are trying to ameliorate occurrences that are beyond our reach. Every situation is unique in its own  peculiar manner. What we have now is more precious than what we would like to have and the moment we accept this bitter  fact will we have the courage and ability to work towards what we long for.

3. ENJOY SELF-LOVE
Oh! this is one painful truth that I had to take in after a dear friend "Angela" told me how much I should start loving me. Have I mentioned how much (We love our families...and how much we loved  wo/men who never loved us back with the same intensity)...to cut that long story short... we have all loved things and people who add no value to our spiritual growth. We never comprehend how slow we die inside by being miserable and not smiling often.
Cook your favorite meal , try and enjoy your free time, adorn yourself frequently, go out and shout at the top of your voice, enjoy good music alone, have a moment of silence without interruption... I call my Sundays "Free Lazy Day" This is a day I don`t even pick calls nor want friends over...yeah that's typical me... invent your own.

4. BETTER YOURSELF
Over the years I have noted that everything I do to myself is the best I can at different occasions. I am being patient with myself and living a day at a time. When we all take our personal evaluation we are never very happy with the outcome.We should not be harsh on ourselves and blaming ourselves for mistakes done in the past instead, we have to enhance ourselves to become a better version of us in all aspects and letting our past mistakes be an example of what we don`t want to encounter again.

5. YOU HAVE A PURPOSE TREASURE YOURSELF
Right before I embarked on my passion for writing articles I almost lost track of where my life was heading, was it not for that moment when "Angela"became frank with me I would have lost myself in some darkness I cannot mention here. There I realized that I have never been a very social person and from my past mistakes can I help someone out there become purposeful. I have found that one thing that makes me not to stray, here I am trying to set goals that I am hoping to achieve in the near future. You should learn to treat yourself with respect and not let anyone abuse you emotionally, physically or mentally these are the major things that makes us to loose focus....and love thyself as God loves you.

6. DON`T VALUE MATERIAL POSSESSION
I will tell you this for a fact, material possession do not bring any form of satisfaction to a broken heart. But from the circle of friends that we have and life's experience do we always look back and smile and find a kind of nourishment that we get nowhere else. At no time in life does a politician look at grabbed land and smile because they are are always scared...if this feeling is turned around it becomes a lifetime memory that rejuvenates our souls when we are remorse. Make friends ,have good experiences and let go the love or material things.

7. NEVER COMPARE YOURSELF TO OTHERS
There is a reason why God made our fingers to be of different heights, that is why we are not the same. We might be born of the same mother but completely different individuals.We grow physically, financially, and economically at different rates too. Relax and embrace the speed in which you are moving forward with life. some of us are educated and not prosperous and others never even got to see the door to a classroom yet they are achieving big rewards and achievements in life. we have different minds and do not wait for anyone's approval for you to be happy..love where you are and embrace change as it comes.

8. KEEP YOUR LOVED ONES CLOSE
The people who light you up during your darkest hours are the ones who truly love you. Love them right back and it becomes a circle of love everywhere."The  only way to have a friend is to be one.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson . I read this way back when I was about 9years old from an article written by Td.Jakes . 
I am lucky to have a Family that loves me right back no matter where I go and from them do i derive my strength and enthusiasm every single day. You too should have something closer to family that makes you feel complete be it friends, colleagues,relatives e.t.c

From everything we do Happiness should be the paramount result. I am happy I wish you would also be as happy as I am.